Sat, 22 May 2021 22:59:38 +0000
I recently read Goodbye Things by Fumio Sasaki, and apart from the fact that the author speaks like my ex I really enjoyed that book.
It’s a quick read and, for someone who’s already deep into their decluttering journey, not so much of a novelty. However, a few things came up that I had never thought about, especially two questions to ask yourself when getting rid of something and considering buying something new.
Do you need it right now?
I am a big “just in case” person. I like to be prepared. I often get tempted by things like camping equipment or fancy pieces of clothes. I need to remind myself that I already have everything I need when I go camping, and that I have no need whatsoever for snazzy clothes.
In the world we live in, if you find yourself in a situation where you really need something, you’d probably be able to purchase it straight away.
I like to remind myself that when you travel all you really need is your passport, your phone and your wallet. Everything else you can buy wherever you’re going. It’s kind of the same in every day life.
Why can’t you part with it?
When you’re trying to get rid of something, this is such a good question to ask yourself. It unpacks a whole emotional baggage that might be connected to whatever you’re trying to let go of.
I have a ragged pink sweater that is basically falling apart, yet I don't seem to be able to part with it. I’ve tried to ask myself why, and I think it comes down to how people react when they see me wear it. I have been told that colour really suits me, that I look great in it, and someone even begged me to please never get rid of it. It also goes with most of my clothes and I know if I did get rid of it I would have to replace it.
This made me reflect a lot on the concept of external validation, and the fact that such a silly thing like an old sweater can sparkle such deep thoughts and self-reflection.
These are questions I will definitely incorporate into my daily life from now on.
Have you thought about them before? Have they ever been helpful? Have you read Goodbye Things? I’d love to know what you thought about it!